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[–] tookmyname@lemmy.ml 76 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Hard to moderate. Brings influencers and bots. Doesn’t contribute anything that can’t be easily found elsewhere.

[–] nik282000@lemmy.ml 25 points 1 year ago

influencers

Anything that can cut down on the ability to monetize a platform is worth it.

[–] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.world 13 points 1 year ago (5 children)

i hadnt really thought of it until now, and was kind of expecting lemmy/kbin to get infected with porn, but you state some great reasons. i want to be open that i have used porn subs in the past, and i think that porn should 100% be legal. every adult should have the right to express themselves as long as they are not infringing on someone else's rights or safety.

before onlyfans, /r/gonewild was actually pretty appealing. once the amateur porn scene took off, reddit porn subs became advertisements ("check the comments for my onlyfans πŸ˜œπŸ‘") and spam bots reposting other people's porn. i really would prefer to avoid that. if someone wants porn, they can go back to reddit or whatever porn dedicated site there is.

btw, i knew a girl who ran one of her own onlyfans-type things. i know it's annecdotal so my one experience isn't representative, but she ruined it for me. that girl was complete trash. she still lived with her parents at 24 years old with no ambition other than to live off of others. she proudly stated this. she didn't work. she had multiple sugar daddies that would financially support her while she would insult them and her customers behind their backs openly to anyone that would listen to her garbage. she had multiple separate ig accounts, each dedicated to a sugar daddy. she would then friend her real friends to show off the "losers" that would support her. the rest of her sisters, while not as bad, were near the same level of toxicity: highly predatory, psychopathically manipulative, and vindictive af. they shared the same social circle that was all the same crap. i fully expect to see at least one of them in the news or jail blotter eventually. i ended up blocking them all on all avenues of communication and recorded me on video telling them that they arent allowed on my property. i also created a highly detailed journal of our interactions, recorded conversations, and kept evidence in case they ever felt like attacking me for setting boundaries.

anyway, in my experience, the persona we see them display on the internet is fake. they're not some horny person just dying for some internet stranger to hook up with. theyre not a victim of the circumstances theyre trying to escape. they don't get turned on by being "slutty" just for you. they get turned on by the power to manipulate others at other's expense. that their real kink: abuse. it becomes disgusting.

again, i know not all online sex workers are this way, and there are certainly the fantastical pornstars and couple's that aren't terrible people but some definitely are horrible and we dont actually know which one is which because the public gets a false presentation of who they really are.

thanks for attending my ted talk. ill have a spicy chicken sandwich pls.

[–] mub@lemmy.ml 8 points 1 year ago

I'm going to lmao if Reddit becomes a porm only site due to lack of any other content.

[–] mrmanager 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I'm surprised anyone would think their are being themselves... I thought everyone knew they are acting. But maybe not everyone knows this actually.

Maybe men are a bit stupid in this regard... Some of us get a bit brain freezed by a good looking woman.

[–] jabib@beehaw.org 8 points 1 year ago

Did you say good looking woman? Where?

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[–] nutomic@lemmy.ml 73 points 1 year ago

Because we dont want to moderate porn, simple as that. Other instances are free to do this differently.

[–] matthieu_xyz@piaille.fr 29 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

@Marv IMO we need some NSFW instances. It wouldn’t be a problem with the rest of lemmy/kbin because it’s easy to filter out communities/magazine or entire instances.

There is a legitimate demand for NSFW content. And NSFW content can be a decisive factor in the success of a platform. (See Tumblr vs Twitter, photographs on instagram, etc.) Sex workers are also a vulnerable group and one of the goals of the fediverse is to provide a place for marginalized groups.

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[–] matthieu_xyz@piaille.fr 26 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

@Marv
BUT, it needs moderation and moderating NSFW is hard, exhausting and time-consuming. Not everyone wants to do that. Also when I say NSFW content, it doesn’t have to be porn bot posting content they don’t own. It could be OC only, a photograph community that allows nude models, etc. Unlike porn dumps communities, those are important places to have.

Edit: Also research the history of switter, it’s very interesting. And one of the big failures of the fediverse. We should learn from it.

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[–] depreciated_cost@lemmy.ml 28 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] Mac@lemmy.world 26 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm fine with no porn. It gets so tiring seeing porn and pseudo-porn everywhere.

Porn should stay in dedicated instances so it can be blocked. NSFW tagging is unreliable at best.

[–] MrsEaves@kbin.social 20 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Agreed. Power to anyone who wants surprise porn intermixed with their memes and tech news, but I’d like the choice to keep that separate without blocking all NSFW content.

[–] Dalinar@lemmy.nz 13 points 1 year ago

I don't need that while I'm on the train

[–] Sphere@lemmy.ml 24 points 1 year ago

Because that would end up making a good portion of potential users feel uncomfortable using the site. There is no lack of pornography on the Internet, go look at it elsewhere.

[–] itchy_lizard@lemmy.ml 23 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (10 children)

I don't use reddit for p0rn, but the fact is that a lot of reddit users won't consider lemmy an option unless there's porn.

Actually, I think it's important to have one also because it's better to compartmentalize that shit on its own dedicated instance, anyway.

PSA: WE NEED A PORN INSTANCE. Any takers?

[–] krolden@lemmy.ml 20 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Do you really want more reddit porn users?

[–] lazylion_ca@lemmy.ca 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (2 children)

The porn would be on it's own instance not federated with the common Lemmy servers. So it wouldn't show up in /all.

Those who want porn would have to actively seek it out by connecting to those instances. More over, if one instance starts allowing unacceptable material, the other instances can blacklist it.

edit: I was wrong. Lemmynsfw is indeed federated.

[–] Puls3@lemmy.ml 7 points 1 year ago

Would be even better if the porn instances started federating, two horny instances federating might make another instance and then that's how children are made.

[–] Jeroen@lemmy.cock.social 6 points 1 year ago

Or the dev should make a feature so porn subs don't show up in /all by default, and that you'll have to opt-in.

[–] naoseiquemsou@lemmy.ml 10 points 1 year ago

Why write it as p0rn, if there's no censorship in here?

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[–] Vilian@lemmy.ca 20 points 1 year ago

it's blocked in your instance, others allow it

[–] GarbageShootAlt2@lemmy.ml 14 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Go set up your own instance and never raise this subject here again

[–] Countmacula@lemmy.ml 9 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Not sure why your getting downvoted. That’s the beauty of the fediverse lol

[–] Puls3@lemmy.ml 41 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I think its the "never raise this subject here again" Comes off as a bit aggressive.

[–] Countmacula@lemmy.ml 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Absolutely fair, I see that now lol

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[–] this@sh.itjust.works 11 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (7 children)

When you say "this site", do you mean lemmy in general, or lemmy.ml(your home instance)? Because lemmy in general DOES allow nsfw content, its just that no one (to my current knowledge) had been willing to start+moderate a NSFW instance yet. If you think you are up to it, you are more than welcome to spin up your own instance. Just remember you still have to follow all the laws regarding server hosting where you live(or where the server is hosted maybe? Idk I'm not a lawyer).

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[–] cyclohexane@lemmy.ml 7 points 1 year ago

Many of us do not want porn, so it only makes sense that porn goes into specific instances that people who do not want porn can block out. It's a freedom of choice thing.

[–] TheBelgian@lemmy.ml 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Because we don't want to watch this crap.

p0rn is not lacking of any "internet" space. Why would you want to put it everywhere.

[–] Kovari@lemmy.ml 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Hahaha, thank you for speaking the damn truth. I dont understand why it really needs a place on every website. URLs exist for a reason friends

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[–] ElectronSoup@kbin.social 6 points 1 year ago

The constant thirst is one of the handful of cardinal sins of reddit, porn subreddits encourage it.

[–] Roderik@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago

Personally, I don't see why we'd want to bring erotica to Lemmy.

There's already an abundance to be found on other platforms. Why load moderators with the tasks of filtering porn? If one must watch porn so desperately -- why not go to porn sites? I don't see the point.

I find it better to use my imagination anyway. Not thinking any less of people who want to watch porn, you do you, but I find the industry itself rather appalling. In the end, I don't see why we'd want to bring all trouble porn entails here.

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