Whenever Bible Thumpers go on about tots and pears on this topic, quote two verses at em'.
Matthew 6:5-6
“And when you pray, do not be like the hypocrites, for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the street corners to be seen by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full. 6 But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.
James 2:26
As the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without deeds is dead.
Nothing shuts em' up quite like beating them at their own game.