I oscillate between wanting sex at a normal amount and not wanting sex at all. It's frustrating
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i think the fact everyone commenting here and mentioning their own experiences, was either hypersexual as a phase but isn't anymore or is just straight up ace, is interesting. let me tacitly give a counter-example by saying i am absolutely neither of those things but i am definitely an example of this (hint: i'm the first thing)
idk wtf the actual line is for hypersexual. all i can say is that people are fucking weird about sex and there's probably something about neurodivergent people that makes them less likely to care about the ambient weirdness and expectations put on how people express it
i'm the most sexually normal person i know and there's no denying
neurotypical people are weird about sex and this is confirmed true by many sources
Most of the ace autists i talk to hate sex but still want to be eaten by a dragon
Oh yeah this is a thing too.
ADHD. I just assumed aging+depression was what largely did it in.
I think I must be on the hyper side but my rigorous self critique tries to drag me towards more asexuality. In part my debilitating social anxiety loves the concept of trying to not be problematic (provides lots of good reason to not interact with people)
I think I must be on the hyper side but my rigorous self critique tries to drag me towards more asexuality
asexuality is an orientation not an amount of sex having
I have always been quite aro/acespec, and realizing my transness as well as my autism only made me more comfortable expressing myself as I always was. I hated having a libido, and it feels so much more in control now.
Ace + trans + libido are an annoying combination.
It definitely can be.
Adds up, at least for me. On the ace spectrum, as far as I know.
I did the Aspie quiz and one of the questions said "do you have uncommon sexual preferences". And that question stuck with me so much, like if it's included in a clinical battery it's because it's considered a good proxy for neurodivergence, and it just felt so interesting.
gone through a hypersexual phase and then chilled out
i'll join the chorus, no Au but ADHD here. thought maybe it's just aging but who knows. been medicating lately maybe that's why
I went through that, and looking back, I chalk it up to good old ADHD struggles with impulse control and tendencies toward addictive behavior. When it's just about your only steady source of dopamine, yeah, you're going to have problems regulating those urges.
Edit: Worth mentioning that getting on bica calmed that WAY the fuck down in a big damn hurry, too. Yes, it was still A Thing into my 40s.
I swing back and forth. Went through a period where I thought I was ace then got hyper sexual recently lol
Am ace
I think so too, but leaving it at that.
Hmm, I'm autistic and while I probably am closer to the mildly ace side of things than the average person I think I'm still pretty typical in that regard. New site poll needed?
gone through a hypersexual phase and then chilled out.
please stop calling me out with every single post, plz /jk
guess we are rare? x3
we dont really consider ourselves hypersexual and we certainly arent ace,,,,, so :p
(tho dysphoria exists and that totally plays a role so,,,,, who knows what will happen)
Idk how rare in practice its just my experiance talking to people.
*nodsnods* we sees