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Your experiences with quitting porn? (lemmygrad.ml)
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I recently stopped watching porn after doing some reading on proletarian/marxist feminism. This article in particular was really good imo: https://proletarianfeminist.medium.com/a-socialist-feminist-and-transgender-analysis-of-sex-work-b08aaf1ee4ab

I was wondering if anyone else is in a similar boat? Porn is a powerful drug and it can be really difficult to give it up if you're addicted (which I am unfortunately). Is anyone willing to share their porn-free journey and give some advice and tips?

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[–] Navaryn@lemmygrad.ml 0 points 2 years ago (1 children)

btw, does anyone have experience with quitting porn when porn is the only way to experience the things that actually turn you on? I would NEVER do to a woman the shit i'm into, niche porn sites are the only places where i can find that kind of stuff while also being able to lie to myself by saying "this is ok because i am not actually doing it".

Obviously it's still horribly bad and wrong on so many levels, but i feel like i have no other option. I have no issues getting partners but sex within socially accepted boundaries just does nothing for me. And i genuinely fear that if i try to repress it all, i will eventually lose control.

i have postponed dealing with this for years, i really don't know what to do

[–] CannotSleep420@lemmygrad.ml 0 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I would NEVER do to a woman the shit i’m into, niche porn sites are the only places where i can find that kind of stuff while also being able to lie to myself by saying “this is ok because i am not actually doing it”.

Considering the effect porn has on people, there's a good chance the situation is more the reverse: instead of wanting to do fucked up shit driving you to look at porn, you're driven to want to do fucked up shit because of porn. I don't know your circumstances so I can't say for sure, but that is a thing porn tends to do to people.

[–] Navaryn@lemmygrad.ml -1 points 2 years ago

I wish that were true because it would make it possible to go on a "detox" journey and get rid of everything, but the fantasies i have started pretty much as soon as puberty kicked in - long before i had access to porn, let alone the tech and english skills to search for very specific content