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btw, does anyone have experience with quitting porn when porn is the only way to experience the things that actually turn you on? I would NEVER do to a woman the shit i'm into, niche porn sites are the only places where i can find that kind of stuff while also being able to lie to myself by saying "this is ok because i am not actually doing it".
Obviously it's still horribly bad and wrong on so many levels, but i feel like i have no other option. I have no issues getting partners but sex within socially accepted boundaries just does nothing for me. And i genuinely fear that if i try to repress it all, i will eventually lose control.
i have postponed dealing with this for years, i really don't know what to do
Considering the effect porn has on people, there's a good chance the situation is more the reverse: instead of wanting to do fucked up shit driving you to look at porn, you're driven to want to do fucked up shit because of porn. I don't know your circumstances so I can't say for sure, but that is a thing porn tends to do to people.
I wish that were true because it would make it possible to go on a "detox" journey and get rid of everything, but the fantasies i have started pretty much as soon as puberty kicked in - long before i had access to porn, let alone the tech and english skills to search for very specific content