Asexual

cross-posted from: https://mander.xyz/post/12578601

This account will be used to moderate !asexual@lemmy.world. I hope everyone enjoys the garlic bread!

Be aware!

Ok so it is Tumblr so of course the audience is skewed but even in non-straight circles this is a rare sight!

I've been having a dought. It's a small nagging one but it's there.

I've been working a lot with my therapist on self hate issues, but I can acknowledge them.

I realized I can never really be in any kind of physical relationship with somone because of this. I'm repulsed by myself and perhaps my asexuality is just a result of that.

I wonder if I am so repulsed by myself that the idea of me being with anyone is rejected because of the "me" part and not how I feel towards others. Where some may think "I want to kiss that person" I can't bare the thought if subjecting somone to me in that way. And therefore the thought is gross.

Does anyone else deal with this? Any advice?

The reason I wanted to post this is because I want to remind others that the only thing that matters is the now and then.

Why? I was not always asexual, and it has been over 10 years since I experienced confirmed feelings of being sexually attracted. No trauma, my hormones levels are the same as other people's, and no confusion as in I can look back and confirm that I did experienced it. Essentially, my sexuality has literally changed on it own over a decade ago. I can't explain why my sexual orientation simply changed on it own, but it did.

With that being said, I would be lying if I say I am gray-sexual as it implies a chance. It would be lying to say I has been always asexual as I can't simply explain away what I felt and that gets more true as I try to question it.

So, I was allosexual. I'll remain asexual for the rest of my life. I can't change that. That's my future. I did not chose that.

It starts tomorrow 22 Oct 23.

I see you all...

Have a good week!

Edit: To the downvoters, I wouldn't mind so much if I was the bottom of the barrel poster here. But I seem to be one of the very few.

So, a challenge: if you think you can make better content to help this community, post.

How am I supposed to date as an asexual introverted 24 y/o man? Been on dating apps for months and I haven't gotten a single match, and going out to meet ppl scares me... Am I doomed?

It's now 2023, and I fully embrace my identity! To those who are still finding themselves, no matter how young/old you are; people are more complex than words can define; asexuality is a spectrum so even if you don't find a label. That doesn't matter.

Even if the answer isn't with you right now, you may find the answer come to you later. You know your sexuality better than anybody else.

You are worthy of love! Much appreciation for all aces.

I am not a super code-literate person so bare with me on this... But. Still please becareful. There appears to be a vulnerability.

Users are posting images like the following:

https://imgur.com/a/RS4iAeI

And inside hidden is JavaScript code that when executed can take cookie information and send it to a URL address.

Among other things. At this time if you see an image please click the icon circled before clicking the link. DO NOT CLICK THE IMAGE. If you see anything suspicious, please report it immediately. It is better a false report than a missed one.

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/853004

Hello there, and welcome to the Fediverse! Let's get you started.

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For your third day here

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