My experience on reddit is very similar to yours. The more niche subreddits you could get away from it a bit but.... yeah. the video you shared captures it perfectly.
As for beehaw, I'm not on there so idk. I joined kbin/fedia but my experience on the fediverse sounds similar to your own. Lots of people just chatting and talking about how it feels like "the old internet" and not really any of that reddit snark/heated debate.
You just make an account like on a normal website.
The main kbin site is: https://kbin.social/
While I'm posting from an alt-instance right now: https://fedia.io/
Both sites will give the same UI. Though the main kbin site is having some difficulties federating properly atm. hence why I'm on fedia right now. You just sign up with a username/password/email like normal and then you're on.
I think kbin.social is also struggling with federation as a whole right now. But as for the "starts only when youre instance get a reference to the community" what all counts for that? someone searching in the search bar? someone posting cross-instance?
"this instance" :) I see you're on sh.itjust.works. I'm currently posting from fedia.io. Theoretically all the "fediverse" instances should interact with one another.
Hopefully I'll be making kbin/fedia and the fediverse my new home. but I haven't exactly planned to delete my reddit account just yet. I've been itching for a reddit alternative for a while, and none really did the trick for me.
you can't keep your hosting domain "secret" lol. if you make your own lemmy instance, then the url/domain for that instance will be seen when you post on other lemmy instances.
That is indeed the issue over on kbin.social, it's basically isolated at this point. for the time being I made a fedia account since it's the same kbin ui and things seem to be syncing better here?
Same here. been on reddit for around 12 years, of nearly constant daily use. it's a weird feeling.
I just joined kbin and have no idea what i'm doing lol. ended up making this account on fedia and another on kbin.social since they can't seem to see the same posts. not sure what to do long term...
Reddit kinda feels like a sinking ship right now. I wonder how many subreddits will go public again?
kbin.social and fedia.io are two separate websites. They are called "instances". Collectively, these sorts of sites are referred to as the "fediverse".
Posts on one "fediverse" site can be see on another "fediverse" site. For instance, right now you're apparently posting from beehaw.org, which isn't a kbin instance but instead appears to be a lemmy instance.
I'm currently using fedia.io, which is a kbin instance.
The group we're in right now is
technology@beehaw.org, which is hosted on the beehaw.org website/instance, which is the site you're using right now. But I can see and interact, since we're together on the "fediverse".If you signed up for kbin, you have a kbin username as well, but it's separate from your beehaw account. For example, I'm Otome-Chan@kbin.social but also April@fedia.io, I don't have a beehaw account so any posts I make on beehaw groups will have to be from either my kbin account or my fedia account. whereas you can respond with your beehaw account as you've done here :)
So yes, it's the same "fediverse" between kbin, fedia, and beehaw. Though notably kbin.social is having some issues with federation right now due to lots of people joining it.